By Aaliyah Humphrey
Science can determine a lot about relationships, according to SFC professor Dr. Cohen.
Dr. Marisa T. Cohen is more than an educational psych professor – she loves to discuss human relationship science.
Although she earned a PhD in Educational Psychology, her passion for human relationships stems from studying the “The Science on Human Bonding” and teaching experimental and research methods to her students.
“I noticed that a lot of students approach those more technical classes with a little bit of trepidation…so I was kind of looking for a way to get students excited about the material” Dr. Cohen said.
From then on, she realized that every time she mentioned topics on relationships and attachments, students became the most engaged.
“I feel like we become most interested in research when we see a use for it and we know how this can personally affect me or how this can be a use for me every day?” she added.
Along with teaching classes and cofounding Self-Awareness and Bonding Labs (SABL) on campus, Dr. Cohen published a book.
From First Kiss to Forever was published two years ago and discusses the science behind human relationships from birth until death.
This fun, yet scientific book covers all aspects of relationships from bonding as a child to a primary caregiver to marriage, infidelity, divorce to finding your next partner.
“Science can’t explain every aspect about falling in love nor would we want it to because it loses its magic, but there are a lot of scientific components that underly the processes of dating and falling in love” Dr. Cohen said.
She’d like to be known as a relationship researcher – not a guru.
She explained that it’s very important to realize what you have, who it can apply to and where there are limitations to your research.
“As a helpful friend I think it’s always great when you want to give someone advice based upon your experiences, but if you’re in the public eye and if you use your own experiences…it’s inherently biased” she said.
Despite not referring to herself as a relationship guru, she was willing to give advice for any single students:
If “you’re happy not being in a relationship keep doing what you’re doing.”
For those that are single and “looking to be in a relationship, it’s really important that you think about what is important to you in a relationship.
“You really want to make sure that values and beliefs align.”
This is just some free candid advice.
Those interested in further familiarizing themselves with relationship science can read more about it in From First Kiss to Forever, available on Amazon, Goodreads and in the Queens Library.